As we move through our day, often our children are with us. We must be vigilant in teaching them the following lifesaving skills. We live in a changing world and we must adapt in order to protect our children.
These steps are very simple and can be established in a few minutes. They will create lifelong habits that will safeguard them as children and their children when they are adults.
I suggest you have a family meeting and discuss the following:
- Create A “Family” Password: This can very simple, the title of a movie, a cartoon character, something that everyone can remember. We have had the same password for over 20 years. It is a title of a movie. So many choices, you would never be able to guess. Family is defined by whomever is living in the same home. This could be multigenerational family, roommates. Etc. If someone contacts your child representing you, for example: picking them up from school, they must know the password. If they don’t, teach your child do not leave with them.
- Don’t Leave With A Stranger: Stress to your children that they should never go outside or to a different location with a stranger. Adults do not ask children for help. If you lost a puppy, as an adult you would not ask a child to assist in finding the dog.
Teach them to yell. If someone tries to “take” your child, teach them to scream, “He is not my dad, or she is not my mom.” If they scream “No”, bystanders assume it is a discipline problem and not a kidnapping.
- Create Text “X”: We live in a technology filled world. Use it to your advantage. When your child is somewhere they do not feel safe, they can simply text you the letter “X”. You would reply to that text with a message of something along the lines of “I need to pick you up, please be ready”. This creates an out for your child and they can simply read the text to their companions. This will allow them to remove themselves from the situation.
- Teach Your Children To Follow Their Natural Intuition: If they feel something is wrong, then there is a good chance, it is wrong. Using the skills listed above will help your children feel confident as they move through their day. They will have strategies already in place and will be able to be proactive not reactive in their personal safety.
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